Let’s Make David Porat/Eli Shur Famous… For All the Wrong Reasons
By Devorah Katz
I’d like to do my part in making David Porat/Eli Shur famous. First, I’d like to explain why he has two names. David Porat was a married man. He was the father of five children living in Israel. When he left his wife, Adina, his home, and his family, he moved to the United States and at some point adopted the name Eli Shur.
David and Eli are one and the same and they deserve to be known. It is a cautionary tale, a tale of an abuse of power where David (as his wife and family knew him) refuses to give his wife a get, religious divorce. For the past eight years, David and his wife have been separated, he has not paid a penny of child support, nor has he been involved in the lives of his family. So let’s make him famous! I’d like everyone to know him, to recognize him, and to talk about him. Until he gives his wife a get.
At that point, Eli Shur can continue his life as a life coach (!) in Dayton, Ohio. He can counsel people on how to be their “best selves!” or how to “live life to the fullest.” But at this moment he controls the lives of his wife and their children by holding them all hostage. What would you coach them to do, Eli?
I am so so very tired waiting for this magical change to happen -- when we can free agunot simply because it is the morally correct thing to do. I am angry at rabbinic figures who cannot pull it together to stand up and find a viable systemic halakhic solution. But today I am taking out all of that frustration a on the problem: David Porat/Eli Shur. Let’s make him famous. Let’s make the whole world familiar with his face, his actions, his cowardice.
What can you do? The same thing I’m doing – yelling as loud as I can and hoping that someone is listening. Share his wife Adina’s story. Write to Noomi, the Professional Coach Directory, and gently suggest that perhaps David/Eli isn’t the ideal candidate to be a life coach.
Here’s looking at you, David/Eli. Give your wife a get so we can forget all about you.
Learn more about this case at www.freeadina.com.
Devorah Katz is a formal and informal educator. She writes curriculum for schools and institutions around the world. Currently, she serves as the curricular developer and editor for the Global Day of Jewish Learning and is working on a curriculum on conflict for the iCenter. She is also the founding editor of ChallahCrumbs.com.